The Divorce Coach

When you start down the route of separation or divorce, there's usually some cross over time spent with both of you in the same house knowing what's going to happen and trying to live together but separately.  This can be for as little as hours or days, or even stretch into months and years.  The stress can be intense.

When one client decided that she'd been waiting long enough it transpired that she'd have to wait a bit longer - her ex had developed a brain tumour and would require surgery.  As it happened he chose to partially move away and would pop back on occasion for visits to his legal team.  Neither of them wanted this to alter the divorce proceedings at all.

She in the meantime was keen to have exact timings, details, dates and a clear cut process to work with - unfortunately it took a few months longer than her expectations.  When things didn't go according to her plan it caused a fair amount of upset and distress.  There were a lot of holidays during the time when it was in its full flow which she also found frustrating - and I loved as it really gave her the opportunity of having to get on with her life as there really was nothing else she could do about it at the time.  And she was really good at it, once she'd been shown how - she took it on board like a pro and you'd never have known that patience had been an issue!

Once the legalities were out of the way, she then had the practicalities to deal with - what was she to do with all the rest of his stuff?  She didn't want anything left in the house, she didn't want him to have a key.   This happens to so many people and there are different ways of dealing with it - one of which is to remove all the stuff and put it into the garage if you have one, or perhaps a lock up or self storage, or do they have a friend/family who can help out with storage.  Be careful not to be incurring costs on their behalf.  And as the stuff is their property, it's important to a) respect that and b) give clear instructions and penalties in order that no misunderstanding can take place.

In her words what she gained:

'Insight, moving on, expansion'