The results from the Higher Self Therapy sessions always move me - and they certainly create enormous shifts in energy for the client!

'Wow! What can I say about Jackie! I had the most amazing seesion with her in what can only be described as "transendental mind clearing"! Not only was Jackie able to completely clear out my "mental junk" she was also able to offer me a sound path. The clearing work we did together was truly "awesome" and if I had to give it some kind of visual description, it was literally like fireworks going off and small explosions everywhere! Very powerful! Give her a call you won't be dissappointed.'

'Jackie combines a unique combination of coaching, NLP and spiritual healing to help you break-through personal barriers and get back on a fast-track to success. She is also extremely tenacious!! So, if you are looking for someone to challenge you, motivate you and help you move through personal or professional boundaries then I would highly recommend Jackie - she definitely walks her talk!!  Thank you Jackie'

'I think that it was a very enlightening experience.  I feel different Today(and that is good different)'

'Formerly I would have got very, very stressed and worried about such a thing. It all kind of flowed over me and I couldn't stop smiling. Thank you again.'

 

 

How would I know if you weren't ready and how would you know?

• You would be unwilling to accept responsibility for your actions.
• You would find what I was teaching and requesting too much of a tall order
• You would rather blame your ex/the outside world/other circumstances for the way you're feeling
• You will get a benefit from being where you are - perhaps sympathy, money, attention
• You will make excuses not to turn up on the call
• You will not yet be in sufficient pain to recognise that something has to change, and that the something is in your control

This isn't something which is right or wrong, it's just that our working relationship won't reap the benefits you think you want yet.  The time is likely to come when you will find that you have more understanding and would like to try again - I never ever shut the door on clients and it has to be the right time for them to seriously want to move on and invest in themselves, their health and their happiness.

This client was well down his divorce route having been separated for 12 months. He contacted me to get some help with some of the non-legal practicalities, such as holidays, time with the kids, dealing with the in-laws, introducing his new girlfriend to the children etc.

We also took some time to look at the other areas of his life to make sure that he was aware of where he was going and why - it's really important that you don't just drift along but have some intention in what you're doing - it doesn't matter if it takes a long time, but you do need to have some purpose as to your everyday stuff!

Within the 3 month period, he was up and off and relishing his life, and whilst everything wasn't totally settled legally, he was progressing personally.  This is what he feels the benefits of our time together gave him

'Understanding

Support

Sounding Board'

This person called me to help get back on the right track for her.  She had taken the steps which were right for her and then she'd run out of steam and was feeling a little uncertain.  Together we worked to help her regain a focus and for her to know what and where she was going.  It was a bit like planning your holiday - did she want the fast train or the slow boat, what clothes would she need to take, did she need a visa or to learn a new language. 

In order to work through this as quickly as possible this client booked a Personal Breakthrough Session which included follow up for a few weeks to make sure it was all cementing into place properly.

'Jackie is excellent at putting you at ease. She 'tunes' into your struggles and needs very quickly and always pulls out the right 'tool(s)' to work with. The results she gets are awesome.  I put this down to the fact that she also does 'higher self' work which gets to the root cause of the problem.  Only when the root cause is dealt with are you completely free from negative holds.  I would hightly recommend Jackie to anyone who feels stuck, because after working with Jackie you'll be eager to go forward and create the life you wish for.'

I had a stunning client come to ask for help, she'd been divorced for about 7 years, and had had two relationships which didn't work out.  Now in itself that's ok that they don't but she was beating herself up about it.  So what we started doing with her was getting rid of the emotional baggage she'd been carrying around and weighing her down so that she could lift her head up, and stand as tall as you do at 5'1" (and since I'm that height too, I know how good it feels to think I'm 5'8" sometimes!)

We built in some criteria around which she could work, we set out long, medium and short term goals and built some action plans around them.   She was really needing some encouragement and support to let her explore options, and she did her tasks each week with verve and enthusiasm, coming back with some great stories. 

When one client decided that she'd been waiting long enough it transpired that she'd have to wait a bit longer - her ex had developed a brain tumour and would require surgery.  As it happened he chose to partially move away and would pop back on occasion for visits to his legal team.  Neither of them wanted this to alter the divorce proceedings at all.

She in the meantime was keen to have exact timings, details, dates and a clear cut process to work with - unfortunately it took a few months longer than her expectations.  When things didn't go according to her plan it caused a fair amount of upset and distress.  There were a lot of holidays during the time when it was in its full flow which she also found frustrating - and I loved as it really gave her the opportunity of having to get on with her life as there really was nothing else she could do about it at the time.  And she was really good at it, once she'd been shown how - she took it on board like a pro and you'd never have known that patience had been an issue!

Once the legalities were out of the way, she then had the practicalities to deal with - what was she to do with all the rest of his stuff?  She didn't want anything left in the house, she didn't want him to have a key.   This happens to so many people and there are different ways of dealing with it - one of which is to remove all the stuff and put it into the garage if you have one, or perhaps a lock up or self storage, or do they have a friend/family who can help out with storage.  Be careful not to be incurring costs on their behalf.  And as the stuff is their property, it's important to a) respect that and b) give clear instructions and penalties in order that no misunderstanding can take place.

In her words what she gained:

'Insight, moving on, expansion'

Patience was something I'd to learn about - and it took a lot of practice, and when I found out what it really was all about, I smiled to myself, then laughed out loud and wondered why I hadn't got it before!

So when I was working with a lovely lady who was dealing with her second divorce while having a great relationship with a new partner who was also getting divorced, I was able to understand her frustrations.  The divorce was dragging on, the ex was poking a stick in everything, she knew where she wanted to go and needed it all to be over NOW.  When we started to look at the reality of the situation however it was apparent that although she did want it over, it wasn't actually the best time for her to have it over and done with - she had a few other things which had to get into place before she was ready.  It took a few weeks and a great deal of courage on her part to allow her to face some pretty monumental stuff in her life.  It didn't take long and the relief was palpable.  Only then could she set about preparing for her real new life, only then could she see that she had in fact being hindering the legal process in her own way. 

It so rarely boils down to just the other person.  There are things which you do, which they do and which we've all done which make the process more awkward, and laborious.   And what's the rush anyway - you think it can't wait, but if it can't what will happen?  Yes, you'll have to make another decision to deal with it, it might be tough, it might be distasteful, it might not be what you want - but who's to say that what you want is right for everyone concerned?

'Jackie is a super person!!! I had the amazing good fortune to be selected as a guinea pig for a group course she was piloting. While this was obviously connected with the divorce process, I was fairly stunned when in the initial one-to-one phone call she picked up on lots of issues that have plagued my life since childhood, not just the divorce stuff. Jackie is ready with all sorts of strategies to help with sticky points in one's life. What I value most of all is her humour, understanding, compassion, lack of judgement, and the amazing reinforcement I have received from her. Even at the worst moments, I have put down the phone after talking to her and found myself grinning from ear to ear! I recently invested in a half-day face-to-face session with her, and am buzzing as a result. Jackie is far more than a divorce coach and I would heartily recommend her to anyone who is looking for resolution concerning any sort of life issue. I owe you a lot, Jackie, go girl, go!!!'

A client phoned me one night just as I was serving up dinner, she was in tears, and struggling to breath, this attack had started in the afternoon, and she'd been doing the exercises I give, and they'd helped but it hadn't gone away.  My 1:1 clients know that they have full emergency back up by email and phone for when things aren't going well.  This lady very sensibly chose to use it.

We worked together that evening and within 40 minutes she was breathing normally again, had started to laugh, was able to talk to her son and was back to a place where she felt calm and in control. 

Her fears were manyfold, as is often the case, one fear leads to another, and another and another and then life itself becomes fearful.  She's an inherently strong lady who had become used to dealing with the difficulties of her partner's demands, had shut herself off, and now that she was on her own and having him being difficult, knowing court was looming, knowing she needed a job, wanting a new relationship - you can see how desperate it can all become.

For the first couple of months we got her onto an even keel, she found a job, she met a couple of guys (definitely against my rules, but it's her responsibilty for the consequences - and they both caused more unrest - so she stopped looking, phew!).  In all though she began to find footholds in life again.  She began to find out who she had been many years previously and was enjoying the discovery.  Her dreams changed, her sleep patterns improved.  Her intake of asthma drugs went down.  She really put in 110% effort to helping herself - doing all the exercises, following up on tasks, and keeping a clear focus about where she was going.  Her gold star chart filled up more quickly than her 5 year olds!  This is what she's really appreciated working with me to gain:

'security
extended toolkit
alternative perspective
accelerated personal development'

With support behind her, a growing sense of confidence and self understanding, this timid mouse, grew strong and purposeful. She stuck to the exercises, faced her fears, found ways to lighten challenging situations, stuck to her guns and 3 months on looked back at her first audit with shock and incredulity.

She then set to work on building a life and becoming a 'real person' again. There have been a few blocks which shifted with a bit of practice and she started to laugh at herself, with others and to enjoy not making herself busy. This lady was such a total pleasure to work with - I could hear her light up at the end of the phone.

'The benefits are numerous, the main ones I would say are

Return of self esteem

Helping to see what really matters, and what doesn’t.

Confidence before going into a known difficult situation

Emotional freedom – by which I mean ‘letting go’, ‘being OK in yourself’. '

I have always been one of those people who had everything sorted out knew what I was doing and was in control. I was not the sort of person who, heaven forbid, needed help. Then I found myself facing a brick wall that I could find no way over, under or around. Jackie showed me how to break the wall down brick by brick, she then helped me to walk through. The best bit is that Jackie doesn’t just leave you there. Jackie allows you to see that at the other side of that wall there is a great big beautiful world just waiting for you.

He found that the person he married, stayed the person he married yet he himself had grown in confidence, he'd lost his fears of rejection and he wanted more from his wife than for her to be chief cook, bottle washer and child rearer.  She couldn't move out of that role and found it challenging to give love and affection. 

He wanted help to see what he could do to make everything ok again.  With a growing understanding of how people and things change, he vowed to do what he could and yet he took on board that he was responsible for himself and not for her.  He could not change who she was, he could learn to accept that and move on, or live with who she was. 

With that in mind, he dated her again, he arranged weekends without the children, he tried flowers and gifts, but she couldn't let him in.  When they separated it was with sadness but with understanding that they weren't able to give each other what they needed and they both recognised that their paths were now not running on parallel lines.