The Divorce Coach

Dictionary definition of observe - To see, watch, perceive or notice is the first dictionary definition I found.

To observe requires you to stand back a bit - what springs to mind when I use the word observe is detachment from the subject matter. When we can learn to observe without becoming involved we find that we can 'see' so much more.

I find it useful to construct a virtual observation tower to climb into when I'm finding myself a bit frustrated, or stressed about something. I deliberately take time to go into the tower and look at the situation with a 360 degree viewpoint. Sure, it takes time and sometimes I have to admit to things which I haven't recognised before and maybe haven't wanted to see.

Ultimately we are all good at observing others, and usually judging them - it takes practise to observe yourself and trust me there's only one actor in the story being played out who you can ask to do/be/say something else.

Have fun observing and become the director of your own story not just the main character.

Jackie Walker

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